As far as I can remember. I have always had a some what a rigorous time making friends. Naturally a chatty Cathy and talking to anyone who was seated next to me. But friends outside school or the work place, I feel as though I have always been the outcast of the group. I have had many friends and friends on social media. I have only had a handful of great friends through out life thus far.. I honestly preferred it that way. But growing up and becoming an adult and moving away with my Husband, it has continued to decline. Again I have been okay with it. I almost prefer it. I hardly have much in common with most. Or even posses the same sense of humor or interests. I never "partied". I rarely drink. My favorite pastime I suppose is acting like the hermit crab I am with my now family. A Husband, Son, and two stinky ass dogs.
So now I am THAT mom now, With tons of baby spam. Well..He is damn cute. Being a Mother isn't all easy. But that cliches of cheesy love are indeed true. I am a SAHM with a little monster. A husband who works and occasionally (Although lately mostly) travels for work so mom friends would be appreciated. But in person, I feel like an awkward insecure teenager. I'm not quite sure how to attempt or initiate conversations very well anymore. I perceived I am a better friend virtually for conversations, because I when I am one on one with a a person my mind is just racing with so many things. Then the moment I go to talk.. My mind becomes blank or I feel as if I do not make sense. Other mothers don't approach me, I figure because I look like a creep.. or because of my RBF.(Resting Bitch Face) People assume I am a snobby bitch all the time. I can't help thats just the way I look. I mean, I can be a snobby bitch when you don't know me. But once you do, I am just this goofy mom wanting to laugh all day.
So recently I thought I'd try a little harder. But now as a mom it is even more difficult to make "Mom Friends". It's not as simple and going to a public place seeing a woman with a kid near the age of your child's saying and pointing like "That's your kid, This is mine. Friends?" And, It's not the same anymore with my friends who are not mothers. You can't vent about the same things anymore. Now a days it's all " When is he ever going to let me sleep again?" Or getting excited over the baby Osh Kosh jeans I found on sale as opposed to shopping for myself. "He Pooped in the toilet again!!"
So I downloaded this app that is a so called Tinder for mom friends. It doesn't have a swipe option. It looks more like a dating app. ( I downloaded 2. This and MomCO.) Well I worked up the courage and messaged two moms. AND... No response.. #FAIL . Well I tried. Whatever.. I am friends with THE GET REAL MOM. She's pretty rad. We went to the mall this past week and picked up some possible mommy friends with our little wing men. I think its easier going into this with at least one friend. I lucked out with her. We met each other through work. We are close in age and our sons are 10 days apart. So it's easy and nice to relate.
To all you moms trying to make friends like myself!